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Defining Your Ideal Lifestyle – Part 2

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This is the second part to the Defining Your Ideal Lifestyle post I wrote yesterday.

If you haven’t had a chance to read that one yet, I recommend going back and reading it before continuing on with this post.

In yesterday’s post we left off with getting crystal clear on what your ideal “Waking Up” scenario would be.

Today we’re going to move onto the next part.

Defining Your Ideal Lifestyle – Morning Ritual

The next step in the process is to get clear on what you would like your morning ritual to be.

You could have multiple morning rituals if you like, but let’s just start out with one to start.

What would you like your morning ritual to be?

Your morning ritual will be the time after you wake up but before you are fully engaged to take on the day.

Would you like to start your morning ritual with meditation?

How about breakfast with your spouse or your kids?

Would you prefer to take your dog for a walk?

How about a jog, or a workout or a hike?

Would you prefer to start it with one hour of martial arts training?

How about some time to read, or to compose music?

Or what about journaling or working on your dream book?

Spend some time now and write down on a piece of paper what your ideal lifestyle “morning ritual” would be.

Get creative, and remember that you can have as many of these as you want.

You’re not “locking in” anything or committing to anything.

You’re just doing this to paint a picture in your mind of ONE of the morning rituals that you might enjoy doing in your ideal lifestyle.

The point with this exercise is to show your mind that your CURRENT morning ritual is NOT the only one that you can manifest.

For example, perhaps your current morning ritual is to drag you butt out of bed, shower, slap on some clothes and grab a granola bar on the way out the door and then battle traffic for an hour to get into the office.

That may very well be your reality right now, but it doesn’t always have to be that way.

Imagine that it could be different…

… and write down what your imagination would like to see.

If you feel inspired, leave a comment below describing your ideal lifestyle morning ritual.

Defining Your Ideal Lifestyle – Part 1

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One of the first steps towards living the life you want is getting clear on what you actually want.

A few years ago I sat down and put together a detailed description of the lifestyle that I wanted.

It definitely wasn’t easy.

Knowing what the heck you want from your life seems easy, but it’s actually pretty hard to figure out.

Most of us find it difficult to commit to what we want.

One of the little tricks I learned that helped me out is to just focus on small tiny fragments of time instead of trying to figure out everything all at once.

So, it today’s blog post we’ll start with defining the very first part of your ideal lifestyle.

Defining Your Ideal Lifestyle – Waking Up

When you’re living your ideal lifestyle, what will it look like for you to wake up?

Imagine that you’re already living your ideal life and you’re now opening your eyes from sleeping…

… describe what that’s like…

Here are some questions that might help you out…

What type of bed are you sleeping on?  Is it a single, double, queen or king sized?

What does the mattress feel like?

What do the covers feel like?

What do the sheets feel like?

What’s the temperature in the room?

Approximately what time is it?

How were you woken up?  Was it an alarm clock?  Did your spouse wake you up?  Did you dog or cat wake you up?  Did your kids wake you up?  Did you just wake yourself up?

What do you see when you open your eyes?  Is it a wall, a mirror, a lamp, a window, the ceiling, the sky, what do you see?

Is there someone else in the bed with you?

How does your body feel?

What are some of your first thoughts when you wake up?

Start with this…

Get a piece of paper out, and just write down the answers to these questions or think of your own questions and describe what would be your ideal lifestyle for waking up in the morning.

You may have several different scenarios, and that’s fine.

Write them all down.

This is the starting point for defining your perfect.

Once you’ve written this down, leave a comment below and describe some parts of what waking up looks like to you in your ideal lifestyle. 🙂

How to Stop Manifesting Needless Struggle in Your Life

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One of the sneakiest little “mind viruses” that MANY people suffer from is the addiction to manifesting needless struggle in their lives.

To some degree we all suffer from this.

Some people more than others.

I know I’ve done this to myself many times in the past, and it wasn’t until I became aware of what I was doing to myself that I finally stopped manifesting this pointless, needless need for struggle.

Let me explain what I mean by this.

Have you ever been at a party with a bunch of friends you haven’t seen for a while, just catching up on what’s new with people, and someone asks someone about a trip they went on recently…

… and then that person says something along the lines of “Oh-ma-Gawd, did you hear what happened to us?!” …

… and then they proceed to tell a tale that sounds a little bit like this…

“Okay, so you won’t believe what happened.  Here we were, on our first trip to Mexico.  It all started when on our way to the airport George realized that he had forgotten his passport, and we were already half way to the airport, so we had to turn around and head all the way back.

But then, as we’re heading back home, we catch a flat tire so we have to pull over to change the tire – right?  And THEN, we realize that the spare tire in the back is FLAT as well!

So then, we start freaking out, and then George starts flagging down cars as they’re driving by, to see if we could catch a ride with someone, while I’m on the phone trying to reach anyone to see if someone could help us out – but nobody was available because everyone was at work.

So then George finally flags down this car and the guy agrees to give him a ride home and back for $50!  So he catches a ride with this guy, goes home, grabs his passport, and also the spare tire from MY car which was parked in the drive way.

He heads back TO the car, where I’m waiting for him, with all these people staring at us on the side of the road.  I was so embarrassed!

Then, George gets dropped off, we throw the spare on the car, and we proceed to the airport, but now instead of being 3 hours early for our flight, we’ve got 15 minutes before the flight leaves…”

… and as they’re telling you this story about their trip, the craziness continues!

All kinds of weird shit manifests, like the plane loses a wheel, the luggage gets lost, security requests a strip search, some lady at the airport spills her coffee on their luggage, aliens invade earth, World War III begins…

… and 45 minutes later the story finally ends with the people surviving the ordeal and making it home in one piece…

Have you ever heard one of these stories?

Have you ever TOLD one of these stories to people?

Do you know what I’m talking about?

For some people, every DAY is one of these crazy stories where all kinds of weird shit happens to them that is just totally out of this world, and in the end they always end up victorious!

They emerge as the HERO of the day, not letting life take them down!

And each time this happens, they LOVE telling everyone their newest “STORY”.

You want to know my latest story?

I’ll tell you.

I went out for dinner with my wife today.  We went to a restaurant, had a nice meal, then went to the mall where I found the exact shirts I was looking for and got a $20 discount without asking for it.

Then on the way home I realized I had to get gas, found a gas station really easily, got gas at a good price, and stopped for ice cream at Menchies and it was delicious.

The End!

THAT is how life SHOULD BE – simple, and in the effortless FLOW of the Universe.

THOSE are the stories you should be telling, and THOSE are the stories you should be applauding…

… not all the stories of STRUGGLE and “Oh Ma Gawd you won’t believe ALL the things that went wrong for me today” type of stories.

The more stories of struggle you tell everyone, the MORE struggle you manifest in your life.

The reason why is because you’re addicted to the feeling of being this self-created HERO in your stories of struggle.

You manifest all kinds of stupid unnecessary shit in your life, just so that you can find crazy ways to overcome it, and so that later you can tell everyone who’s willing to listen what a HERO you are for overcoming that crap.

We’ve all done it.

I know I’ve done it in the past.

Once I became aware of this, however, I started to realize that I don’t NEED that anymore.

I don’t NEED to be this “Hero” who first manifested a bunch of stupid shit, just so that later he could overcome it and “save the day” in my own life.

It’s SO MUCH more fun living life in the flow of ease and simplicity and without the need for constant struggle.

Pause for a moment and think about the last time you got together with some friends at a party or some get-together.

Was there someone there who told a story of great struggle and how they overcame it?

BINGO!  That’s the example I’m referring to!

Maybe it was even YOU!

If you were the one telling your story of recent struggle, guess what you were doing while telling the story?

You were sending a message out to the Universe basically saying “Universe, I want you to send me MORE of this struggle that I recently had.  I want you to send me more and more struggle so that I can find ways to overcome it and so that I can keep telling these crazy stories to my friends and so that I can keep looking like a HERO in front of them.  Send more struggle!  Send more struggle!”

THAT is what you’re communicating to the Universe.

And by the Law of Attraction THAT is exactly what you’re going to manifest more of…. because its the LAW!

You cannot be telling your stories of struggle and woe, and swimming around in that vibration of struggle in your imagination as you tell the story, and NOT manifest more struggle.

You also can’t be listening to people tell their stories of struggle and engrossing yourself in their stories without attracting a little bit more struggle into your life as well.

This is why it’s important to try to stay away from that kind of drama and struggle.

It’s totally fine to listen to someone’s INSPIRING story where they share some initial struggles they may have gone through in their life when that same story is then filled with 90% – 95% POSITIVE and INSPIRING things that happened to them after that.

A story like that will HELP you in your life because while you’re listening to it, you’ll be engrossing yourself in the vibration of INSPIRATION and POSITIVITY 90% – 95% of the time.

But if the stories you’re listening to and telling people are 90% – 95% filled with nothing but struggle, you’re just going to manifest MORE of that struggle in your life.

Try this…

… try going on a “Struggle Story Fast” for 90 days…

… for the next 90 days, make a commitment to yourself to NOT LISTEN to people telling you stories of struggle…

… the minute you hear someone start telling you a story of struggle, about the crazy weird stuff that happened to them recently, just interrupt them and find a way to get out of that situation…

… and also, for the next 90 days don’t TELL any stories of struggle yourself either…

Crazy stuff MAY happen to you.  You may go through some struggles that you manifested.  And that’s okay.

But you don’t need to TELL stories about it afterwards.

Just get through it, write about it in your journal if you want to, but then don’t tell anyone else about your struggles.

Stop trying to impress people with your stories of struggles and how you are this HERO who overcomes all the odds.

YOU’RE the one manifesting the struggle in your life because we all manifest 100% of everything in our reality, so all struggle is self-manifested.

So if that’s true, what kind of HERO do you really think you’re convincing people that you are by telling your stories of struggle?

Everyone you THINK you’re impressing with your HERO stories is just thinking “You manifested that yourself in your life you idiot!” … so they’re not impressed anyways.

Just for the next 90 days, don’t tell any stories like these.

Instead, start telling stories of EASE and SIMPLICITY and manifesting FLOW in your life.

Tell those stories to yourself, and if anyone asks you how things are going, tell them your stories of ease.

Most likely they probably won’t be too interested, as most people PREFER to listen to stories of “weird shit” and “drama” and “holy crap you won’t believe what happened to me”, but that’s okay…

… you don’t need your life to be a source of drama like that…

If you want drama, go see a movie or something. 🙂

Try this out for 90 days and notice how things in your life start to shift.

You may start to notice very quickly that things start to flow for you much more easily and with more simplicity.

It really is magical if that is what you CHOOSE to CREATE in your life.

My Mindset Hack Which Solidified My Commitment to Blogging Long Term

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As someone who has been blogging for over 9 years now, one of the things that has fascinated me for a long time is trying to understand the seemingly endless motivation I and many others have for blogging.

I know I didn’t start out having this motivation when I first started blogging.

It’s a mindset that I cultivated inside my mind which now allows me to blog consistently for long periods of time, without giving up, while so many other people quit.

So what is this mindset?

What set of beliefs do I have inside my mind which allow me to continue blogging and to be committed to it for so long?

After searching for an answer to this for quite some time, I think one of the PRIMARY beliefs and mindsets that I have related to my blogs is one of LEGACY.

Let me explain what I mean by that.

When I speak with most people who are starting a Blog, their mindset and thinking focuses mostly on what blogging can do for them today, tomorrow or the next day.

Meaning, their thinking is very short term and they think about Blogging in terms of “If I invest my time and energy writing this blog post, what do I get out of it now?”

Nothing wrong with that line of thinking, and I think that was as well…

…however, there’s also another mindset that I have about Blogging that goes far beyond that.

When I write my Blog posts, I also think about how my Blog post might be able to help someone today, tomorrow, a week, a month, a year or even 500 years from now.

I believe that we’ve reached a point in our civilization where everything we publicly publish on the Internet gets recorded and stored forever.

Therefore, when I write a Blog post I see it as a complete possibility that someone even 500 years from now may be reading a Blog post I write today or a video that I produce, no different from how today we read the works of authors who wrote things hundreds of years ago.

In fact, since my spiritual beliefs are that who we really are is an everlasting Soul and because I believe in re-incarnation, it’s entirely possible that perhaps one day I may be drawn to read my own Blog posts in another incarnation!

At the very least I can see the possibility of at least some of the content that I produce on my Blog outliving me and having a positive impact on someone even after I’m no longer here.

Just the same way that a person like Bruce Lee left his legacy of films, interviews, philosophies and his martial art – Jeet Kune Do – for generations to consume and be inspired by, I believe every one of us has the ability to create content as Bloggers or Video Bloggers and leave our own legacy with it.

For me Blogging is a passion and it’s a way I generate income for myself and my family, but it’s also something I look at as a way to leave a piece of myself as a legacy for future generations.

I find it inspiring to visualize someone today, or a month from now, or 1 year from now or 50 years from now or 100 years from now reading one of my Blog posts, or watching one of my videos and getting value from it.

I think it is because I have essentially programmed my mind to believe THAT scenario as an entirely realistic possibility, that I find the motivation to keep Blogging while so many other people quit.

The reason being is that the way I look at it is even if I write a Blog post today, and it doesn’t generate any income for me today or tomorrow or it doesn’t get a lot of comments or responses, or even if Google doesn’t rank it well in their search engine – it doesn’t really matter, because I know that if I put positive intention and energy into it, my Blog post WILL help someone somewhere at some point in time.

If not today, maybe tomorrow, or the next day, or 500 years from now.

I have that faith because I’ve conditioned my mind to believe that, and that belief helps me to continue to Blog and to ENJOY the process of Blogging. 🙂

What about you?

Have you found something that inspired you to continue Blogging long term?

If so, what is it?